Former senior-level women's magazine editor, investigative reporter and essayist with experience covering health, tech, crime and social justice and women's issues.
How to Forgive Yourself: A Parent’s Guide to Letting Go of Failures
It was 10 years ago, but Andrew hasn’t been able to forgive himself for the accident.
Andrew’s daughter was two, and he was playing a game with her, raising and lowering her on the footrest of a reclining chair. At some point during the game, the 2-year-old lost her balance and got her finger caught in the bracket of the chair.
“I swear, I thought I cut off her finger,” says Andrew, a restaurant manager in Rhode Island who asked Fatherly to withhold his identity.
As it turned out, her finger ...
When a Child Sees Their Parent Abused, the Trauma Can Last a Lifetime
In an August 23rd video that quickly went viral, Jacob Blake, a 29-year-old Black father, was shot in the back seven times by police as he leaned into the open door of an SUV in Kenosha, Wisconsin. Three of his children, all between the ages of 3 and 8, were in the backseat and saw the shooting take place. Blake had opened the door possibly to soothe his three young children.
Videos documenting police violence across the U.S. are no longer surprising to many people — nor is it unusual for pol...
Is Age Just a Number When You’re Choosing a Therapist?
Shortly after her live-in boyfriend moved out, Helena, a lawyer in her mid-30s, added “find a younger therapist” to her post-breakup to-do list.
“It’s definitely a personal bias and comes down to my own level of comfort,” says Helena, who lives in Tampa, Florida. “I don’t feel comfortable talking to an older woman about [having sex with] randos from Tinder.”
Helena found it annoying to explain modern dating mores to her former therapist, who she guessed was in her 60s, particularly because th...
How death metal cured my hatred for yoga
Metal yoga is more than just the latest yoga gimmick....
Can You Get Addicted to Trolling?
It’s becoming increasingly evident that, for some people, trolling isn’t just playing an asshole on the internet.
It was only after several friends cut him out of their lives that Dave* realized he had a trolling problem.
For years, Dave felt a compulsion to argue "with anyone about anything" online, he says, whether the topic was gun control or the accuracy of a quote from the movie Top Gun. He trolled under his real name as well as behind more anonymous handles on various message boards and...
What Happens to a Marriage After Having Children
The first year after Lilah was born was a bumpy one for Ben and Taylor. They had to learn how to navigate the new landscape of parenting. More daunting, they had to figure out their marriage, and how to transition from being a couple to being a family.
“Having a newborn changes everything in your life, including your relationship,” says Taylor, a public relations director in San Francisco. “You and your partner are in straight-up survival mode, operating on no sleep and thinking about nurturi...
High School Confidential
Critics and viewers who initially imagined Netflix's mockumentary series American Vandal might be a one-note dick joke were quick to admit they were wrong.
Audiences remain riveted as high school documentarian Peter Maldonado (Tyler Alvarez) follows a trail of spray-painted phalluses snaking through a high school faculty parking lot to unravel a low-stakes, even ridiculous, mystery. Simple on its face, Vandal's plot boils down to just four words: "Who drew the dicks?"
But the series transcend...
Ready to Rise
On her first trip to Europe last fall, Angela Lewis marveled at the snowy view from the top of Switzerland’s famed Jungfrau.
Meanwhile, critics have been marveling at Lewis, cited as a standout as Aunt Louie in FX’s Snowfall, where a very different kind of snow blankets 1980s South Los Angeles.
The series, which returns July 10 for season three, traces the origins and CIA orchestration of the crack epidemic. Louie’s nephew Franklin (Damson Idris) plays a central role in bringing the drug to L...
This Extreme Sect of Vegans Think Your Baby Will Destroy the Planet
Meet the anti-natalists, people who believe reproduction is wrong.
Out of Her Shell
"Great. Another fucking coconut."
This line, delivered by Selenis Leyva in the first season of Orange Is the New Black, dripped with her character's contempt for a new Latina inmate who could not speak Spanish. The moment also catapulted Leyva into the next phase of her career. Since then, she has consistently stolen scenes on the Netflix series, even though her character originally had no backstory beyond "Gloria Mendoza, Latina."
"If you ask any actor if they would ever expect to go from da...
Dads Might Be Able to Breastfeed Their Kids Soon. Should They?
Breastfeeding their baby, Kaya, was a team effort for Keegan, a 28-year-old father in Philadelphia, and his wife, Auldyn, also 28. Keegan cheered his wife on, brought Kaya to her in bed so she didn’t have to get up to feed her, sourced salve for her nipples, kept her water bottle nearby, and fed his wife, who was often ravenous while breastfeeding their daughter. When Kaya was 3 months old, Auldyn went back to work, and Keegan took on the responsibilities of a stay-at-home dad.
It was a big a...
How Much Should We Read into Dreams That Involve Flings and Infidelity?
In the dream, he was smooth, seductive. He cupped the back of my neck with just the right amount of pressure when he kissed me, with force and urgency. His skin felt warm and he looked into my eyes and smiled slyly in a way that screamed “sex.”
In real life, he wore the same desire-killing button-down white shirt and goofy bright blue silk vest that we all had to wear at the restaurant where we waited tables. He was too perky for me, and sort of a jock. I liked the dark, artsy type, generally...
Can Emergency Rooms Solve the Opioid Epidemic?
ER staff typically give immediate, life-saving care — and a hefty dose of judgment — to young heroin users. That’s starting to change.
Kelly D. says that when she was 21 years old and using heroin, she woke up in emergency rooms more times than she can count. Regaining consciousness in the hospital after an overdose was unpleasant enough, but the lack of compassion made the experience even worse.
“All I got in the hospital was an IV and judgment,” says Kelly, who asked that her last name not ...
Coming to a City Near You: Stolen Guns
Smash-and-grab burglaries of gun stores are on the rise, and there’s not much cities can do to stop them.
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